I feel guilty for not giving my late dad the grandchildren he wished for

DEAR DEIDRE: BECAUSE I never married or gave my dad grandchildren, I feel like I let him down.

He died three weeks ago, aged 75.


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He had long-term health problems but the speed of his death, from him entering hospital to passing away a week later, has taken my breath away.

I am 41. I was in a relationship for ten years but that ended a couple of years ago.

I am now with a man who is 20 years older than me and I am very happy.

My dad couldn’t get his head around the age gap or accept my new man.

I would have loved marriage and children.

I kept hoping I would have time for that once Dad accepted my new relationship, but now that will never happen. I feel so guilty.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Having children just to please your parents and to assuage your guilt is never a good idea.

Be positive about your life and your decisions instead of feeling like you denied your dad something.

Guilt is part of the grieving process. My support pack on bereavement explains the stages of grief we all go through when we lose those close to us.

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