Murder-accused 'man wh**e' cop sobs in dock as he tells jury 'I'm responsible' for lover's death
THE policeman accused of murdering his lover told jurors today that he was “responsible” for her death but that he did not intend to kill her.
PC Timothy Brehmer, 41, who has been described as a “man whore”, admitted he was “cowardly” in not telling his wife, DC Martha Brehmer, about his affair with nurse Claire Parry, 41.
He is accused of strangling Parry, who was also married, in a Dorset pub car park on May 9 before breaking down in front of paramedics sobbing: "I've f***ed up".
The cop was called to give evidence for the first time today and moments after taking the stand he broke down in tears and said “I'm responsible for her death.”
Brehmer- who denies murder but admits manslaughter – sobbed and told Salisbury Crown Court, Wilts, he “might need more tissues” as he claimed he “must have used too much force.”
But, the officer, wearing glasses, a white and blue shirt with blue trousers, insisted he “absolutely did not” intend to murder the nurse.
He said: "I'm responsible for her death. I must have [used too much force].
"I absolutely did not want to kill her or cause serious bodily harm. I didn't intend to kill her."
The court heard details of his affair with A&E nurse Mrs Parry after they met through their work in 2006, the same year he married DC Brehmer.
Their affair began years later and Brehmer told jurors it was “compartmentalised.”
He said: "It wasn't sexual initially. It was sexually flirtatious, predominantly by text and infrequently but it developed.
“I didn't tell her I was married and similarly she didn't tell me she was married.
"The relationship was very compartmentalised, we didn't talk about our family or family units because we both loved them separately.
“She was very proud of her family and I was very proud of mine."
He added: "You didn't talk about the bad things – it was an affair, it's what you have an affair for."
Brehmer said the relationship would be “on and off”, sometimes going up to five months without seeing her but then seeing her twice in a week.
When Mrs Parry's marriage was falling apart in the months before her death, Brehmer was asked if he thought about telling his wife and said he didn't.
"It was cowardly I suppose", he said. "I didn't think I needed to tell Martha, Claire said it was all under control.
"It suited me not to tell Martha, I didn't want it inadvertently destroying my family, which has happened anyway."
Brehmer also revealed details of his affair with DC Kate Rhodes, of Dorset Police, which started in 2012 – but dismissed claims he “groomed” her as a “load of old rubbish.”
The officer also revealed he didn't take his wedding ring off when he had “sexual contact” with DC Rhodes.
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He said: "I felt it was a very quick, flirtatious sexualised interaction. It was 50-50, it was a fling.
"I was not seeing Claire at the time, albeit I was married to Martha.
"We didn't have sexual intercourse, there was a mutual attraction and sexual contact.
"I didn't tell her I was married but [my wedding ring] was always on, I never took it off."
Brehmer, a road traffic officer, revealed he was left “depressed” after being assaulted by a motorist in 2015 and was scared of the frontline.
He “felt like a failure” because he couldn't tell his “high-flying” wife he received counselling after being attacked by the 56-year-old, which left him with a dislocated thumb that 'pointed backwards'.
Brehmer, speaking about a confrontation with Mrs Parry's husband Andrew, said she was feeding him messages to “get their stories right.”
The Dorset Police officer has previously suggested Mrs Parry died from “positional asphyxia” when someone cannot breath because of the way their body is positioned.
Last week, jurors were told the cop also said "god, she's got kids" after allegedly strangling the mum-of-two in a Citroen C1.
Jurors were today shown bodycam footage of Brehmer crying and saying "I'm sorry" as officers told him he would be arrested.
The married officer "angrily and deliberately" strangled Claire after she threatened to reveal their ten-year affair to his wife, jurors were previously told.
Speaking about his early life today, he said he was raised in Rhodesia, which is now Zimbabwe, and went to university in New Zealand but came back to Hampshire in the UK in 1999.
On his induction evening to Dorset Police in October 2003, aged 23, he met his wife, DC Brehmer and married her in 2006.
He previously worked as a family liaison officer and had to tell families – including the parents of a three-year-old boy – their their relatives had died in car crashes.
The trial continues tomorrow.
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